08 May The Balance Myth: Prioritizing What Matters Most
We are often told to chase balance. As if, with enough planning and willpower, we can keep everything perfectly in place: our careers, our families, our friendships, our health, our dreams. All neatly aligned on a scale that never tips too far in one direction.
But for many women, balance feels more like pressure than peace. It whispers that we must do it all, do it well, and do it without asking for help. And if we fall short (if the laundry piles up, if the emails go unanswered, if the self-care slips), we believe we have failed at something we were never meant to master in the first place.
Let’s be honest with ourselves: balance is a myth.
Life Is Not Meant to Stay Still
You’ve probably noticed this too—balance implies stillness. It imagines a life where everything holds equal weight at all times. But real life, especially womanhood, is dynamic. It changes. It stretches. It surprises us.
Some seasons ask more of us than others. There are times when we pour into our families. Times when we focus on healing. Times when ambition rises to the surface. And times when rest is the only goal that matters.
Trying to hold everything equally can leave us drained. What if we gave ourselves permission to be present instead of perfectly balanced? What if we prioritized what brings meaning instead of what others expect?
Focus on What Matters Right Now
I know what you might be thinking—isn’t this just letting things fall through the cracks? Not at all. There is strength in naming what matters most to you at this moment. Not forever. Just right now. It might be connection. It might be boundaries. It might be your creativity, your children, or your peace.
Whatever it is, let that lead. When we stop chasing an ideal and start tuning in to our actual lives, we make space for intention. We begin aligning our energy with our values, not just our responsibilities.
Sound familiar? That’s because deep down, you already know this truth.
Let Go of Guilt and Choose Grace
Letting go of the balance myth does not mean we stop caring. It means we stop carrying what was never ours to hold. It means learning to say no without apology—yes, even to that thing everyone expects you to do.
It means no longer measuring our worth by how much we can juggle. Balance assumes there is one right way to live. But life asks us to be flexible, to be gentle, and to be honest with ourselves.
You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to slow down. You are allowed to step away from something and return to it later. And contrary to what society might tell you, this doesn’t make you flaky—it makes you human.
You Get to Shape This Life
Balance may sound beautiful in theory, but real life is sacred, messy, and deeply personal. Prioritizing what matters most is not about doing more. It is about doing what matters, with care and presence.
It is about showing up fully where you are needed, and not feeling guilty for the places you step away from. This May, as the world around us blooms with new life and new energy, may you give yourself permission to grow in the direction that feels right for you.
Let your life be less about perfect balance and more about meaningful rhythm. You are not here to perform. You are here to live.
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